Our marriage went through what’s likely one the hardest times we’ll experience less than 2 months after saying our “I do’s”. If you too are 1 out of every 4 people who have experienced a miscarriage, you know what the pain is like. You’re reading this because you’re in search of some healing gifts to buy yourself after a miscarriage… probably because you’re looking for some way to find a sense of healing after loss, or maybe in hopes of memorializing your angel.
After we lost “Little Red” (we’re keeping our chosen name private to us), I felt so deeply in my heart that I needed something to keep with me. Something about the physical loss made me feel like I needed to buy a miscarriage gift for myself – one that I could see, touch, and hold.
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Gifts to buy yourself after a Miscarriage
There were a lot of options out there. I first found myself on Etsy, doing a simple search for miscarriage gifts and scrolling through a sea of personalized gift ideas.
I was surprised, and thankful (because I was afraid I was being weird) to see so many miscarriage gift ideas that I’d have never thought of. So I have put together a list of my favorite gifts to buy yourself after a miscarriage that I took the most comfort in the thought of.
1. Miscarriage Rings
This is the first gift I considered buying myself after our miscarriage. I currently only wear my wedding ring set, so I considered buying myself a ring that I could wear on my right index finger.
At our wedding, my “something borrowed” was a decorative silver ring that I wore on that finger. It felt appropriate that I buy a ring to memorialize the baby I had borrowed from heaven – if even only for a short while. I was looking at this one pictured above, but there’s lots of beautiful options on Etsy.
2. Memorial Tattoos
Nothing is more fitting of the permanent mark a miscarriage leaves on your heart than to memorialize your loss with some beautiful, permanent artwork on your body. I personally have a few tattoos, and found the idea of getting another was up there on my list of ideas.
I found a new artist (mine moved well out of state) and hoped to schedule time to sit down with him to discuss my tattoo and get on his schedule. Unfortunately, he’s always solidly booked out many months in advance, and I knew we still wanted to try for a baby. My friends warned me that you are most fertile immediately following a miscarriage, and I didn’t want to waste the money (or the artist’s time) by booking a tattoo session I wouldn’t be able to make use of if I conceived again.
3. Forget Me Nots
If you have a green thumb, you might consider buying some Forget Me Not seeds so that you can start a small garden. Forget Me Nots are edible and safe around children and pets. They are beautiful flowers that are relatively easy to manage.
On a personal note, we ordered an azalea bush from Amazon (did you know that’s a thing!?), but due to the poor soil quality near our home, the plant didn’t do well. We buried Little Red under the bush, and it broke me later to have to dig up the bush to plant something else.
If you don’t typically have a green thumb, consider some fake forget me nots in a pretty vase, or maybe something like this Swarovski Crystal Forget Me Not Vase.
4. Keepsake Necklace
This was ultimately my personal choice. I found a beautiful Mum & Forget Me Not Seed necklace that spoke to my heart. I love what it represents and that it’s always with me – close to my heart. You’ll love this as a keepsake. It’s been a gentle reminder to myself every time I look in the mirror, but not something that’s flashy and practically begging people to acknowledge that you’ve suffered a loss.
I chose mine in silver. It came with an 18″ long chain. The seeds are encased in resin. It arrives packaged in a white box with the quote card inside – that you can hold onto as a keepsake. Each one is uniquely made, so they are slightly different (just like your story). And yes, that’s my actual necklace pictured above.
5. Healing Blanket
This soft throw blanket from BlankieGram will surround you with good vibes and kind words… plus it’ll keep you warm too. This is an Amazon best-seller for a reason! Not only is it super soft and plush, you’re supporting a small business with every purchase.
This blanket comes in several different colors, including Blue, Pink, and Purple (shown above) as well as Teal and Brown!
Why buying a gift for yourself is important
I feel that buying myself a gift after our loss helped me to process the grief. I’m by no means a pychologist, but I think sometimes self care comes in the form of doing something kind for yourself – especially for your mind. For me, that was having something I could hold each day and to use it to find a way to remember my angel if even for a moment every day. I found comfort in that, and I hope that you too will find healing in these gift ideas.
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It was really good to read this. Great ideas for yourself or to gift to someone you love. My husband and I lost two babies to miscarriage at 10 & 8 weeks. We ultimately settled on a keepsake box for them… ultrasounds, tickets to events we had attended while we were pregnant, notes from family and friends, and flowers we had received and dried. I love the idea of plants or a tree, but when we moved, we had to leave them behind and that felt hard. If we know someone who has experienced loss in this way though, we love to gift them a tree to remember.
I am so sorry to hear about your losses. Before our loss, I couldn’t even begin to understand the gravity of what miscarriage meant. To go through it more than once… I still can’t even imagine. 🙁
I love the idea of a keepsake box. I’ve been trying to figure out what to do with all of the pregnancy tests I took, and the ultrasound images. I have one of the images framed, but I think it’s becoming a problem for me to look at it every day – at least right now, while we’re struggling to conceive a second time. Thanks for the idea!
This is a great read. I have 8 angel babies and was not lucky enough to get a rainbow baby. My husband got me a heart necklace with little feet on it-close to the size of what our babies feet would have been at the time of loss but that was just coincidence. I also have angel wing tattoo on my right middle finger so when you make a d in sign language(her name was dani) you see the tatt. I also have more tats coming soon!
Thank you for this. After my miscarriage I found great comfort in a ring with my angel babe’s birthstone. It provided me a sense of closure that helped with the healing process. Definitely recommend you get yourself a gift that resonates with you.
This Post was very helpful. Thank You
Heather Matheney